I’ve been debating with myself whether or not I should post something here about this or not. I usually try to keep this blog to professional matters only, but some stuff in my personal life lately has been affecting my professional life, so I thought I’d post a brief explanation of what’s going on with me right now. Apologies if all this is too much information – feel free to skip this post!
In mid-July this year, two things happened in very close succession that really knocked me for six. First, my Mum was diagnosed with esophageal cancer. About a week later, my partner’s brother-in-law and nephew were in a motorbike accident: his brother-in-law was killed; his nephew survived but with not many bones left unbroken. At the same time, I got several pieces of news from other close friends and family members, most of which did not affect me as immediately as the above but all of which made me feel like there was a never-ending deluge of terrible things happening to lovely people out there.
The last six weeks have been a very difficult time. I’m coping ok now, as is my partner, but for a while I really felt like I was barely keeping my head above water. Part of the reason I wanted to post this here was as a sort of explanation: I know that my work, my commitments outside of work and my social life have all suffered recently, so I hope this post might go some way to explaining why.
I’m not going to go into a huge amount of detail as to everything that’s happened over the last month and a half. For anyone who’s interested: my partner’s nephew is recovering ok, they let him out of hospital a few days ago and he’s back living with his mum. He’ll be pretty immobile for a long time, but he didn’t have any cranial or spinal injuries so he will walk again eventually. The doctors say he’s recovering well – his age (19) and fitness levels are really on his side here. His mum – my partner’s sister – isn’t too great right now: she’s obviously relieved that her son is ok, but she is also dealing with losing her partner. We’ve been trying to support her through this as much as we can.
Mum started chemotherapy today, with the aim of shrinking the tumour so they can eventually remove it. There’s a chance that after the chemo they still might not be able to remove the tumour, in which case they’ll just need to try to manage it and keep her comfortable, but we’re waiting on more test results to find out how much of a chance that is so I’m trying not to worry about it for the moment.
I’m feeling more positive today than I have for a long time. This is probably a lot to do with my sister’s wedding this weekend just gone – I spent all week at home with my family, talked a lot about everything, and we all had an amazing time on Saturday. I’m really glad we got to have that time all together as a family (which doesn’t happen that often – we’re all scattered across the country), just to be happy and be together. I know the coming months are going to be very difficult for all of us, but I also know that we can hang on to good times like this weekend to get us through the bad.
So, that’s me right now. I also want to say thank you to those friends – online and offline – who’d already heard some or all of this from me, and have been just so lovely about it. I can’t say how much that support has meant.